Invest In Your Marriage

Stocks. Bonds.  Bear Market. Bull Market. Dow. NASDAQ.  Those are all the words that normally come to my mind when I hear the word invest.  But did you know that money isn’t the only thing you can invest?  Unfortunately, we don’t usually put the words MARRIAGE & INVEST together.  However, one of the most important things we can invest in is our marriages.

A few weeks ago I got a notification about a marriage seminar that my church was hosting and I scrolled to that date on my calendar.  When I got there, I saw a ridiculous amount of activities staring back at me that were already scheduled for that Saturday… Continue reading “Invest In Your Marriage”

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Encouragement: What Every Husband Needs

Encouragement: An encouraging word. A note expressing appreciation. A quick “You Got This” text. It may seem like such a small act but it can be just what a person needs to lift their spirits or give them that much needed inspiration.

Last week I felt like I was being pulled in 100 different directions—work, volunteering at church, Girl Scout leader responsibilities, and of course my regular duties of being a mom and wife—and out of the blue a mom in my daughter’s girl scout troop sent me a text telling me how much she appreciated me and that the extra little things I do for our troop don’t go unnoticed.

You would have thought I just won the lottery with how happy I felt after reading her text.  Ok maybe not I just won the lottery level happiness but I was feeling pretty good.  Her kind words made all the difference to me, it immediately changed my mood and made me feel so much better about myself and my work. Her words made me think, “I can do it” and that my hard work is not in vain. Continue reading “Encouragement: What Every Husband Needs”

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Get Connected: Staying Plugged Into Your Marriage

I’m here, but am I really HERE?!?!  That’s the question I asked myself as I sat in church last week listening to my pastor preach a message titled “Get Back In The Gate”. This message was about the “Danger of Disengagement” and Pastor Furtick made 2 statements that shook me to my core:

“Whenever you are disengaged you are not present and you begin to open doors for vulnerabilities”

“Don’t be above your life and not in it”

Have you ever had one of those moments in church when you feel like your pastor is talking directly to you, or think does my pastor have some supernatural power to know exactly what I’m going through?  That was me last week.  At that moment, my mind started playing scenes in my head where I had become disengaged in my marriage and with my family. Continue reading “Get Connected: Staying Plugged Into Your Marriage”

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Is Your Vision Bored???

As the ball in Times Square drops, we pucker up our lips to get that 1st kiss of the year, and make a list of goals hoping to better our lives, relationships, and career.  2018.  New Year. New Me. New You. New Marriage. Ok, maybe not a NEW marriage—but definitely a newly improved marriage.

But sometime between January 1st and March-ish we tend to forget all about our goals and fall right back into our same routine.  And before we know it, the whole year goes by and we have a hard time trying to remember what we accomplished or how God has moved in our lives. Continue reading “Is Your Vision Bored???”

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Jay-Z & Beyonce. William & Kate.  David & Victoria Beckham.  Barack & Michelle Obama.

Search #MarriageGoals and you’ll find hundreds of pictures of these happy couples vacationing somewhere exotic, lounging on a yacht, or just genuinely enjoying each other’s company.  It’s great to get a glimpse into the lives of these happy couples, but have you ever stopped to wonder what makes them tick behind the scenes?  How much hard work, planning, and energy went into those Instagram pics and videos?  What we get to see on social media or perhaps even with couples that we know personally is really just a very small piece of their life.  When you dig deeper into any successful relationship you’ll see that the happiness and success that is summed up in a picture comes from real planning and goal setting.  In other words, a successful marriage doesn’t just happen…they make it happen.

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Avoiding The Holiday Tug of War

We’re in my FAVORITE time of year—the holiday season—all the way from Thanksgiving til the new year!!  I just love the hustle and bustle, listening to Christmas music, holiday parties, shopping, and family gatherings.  Now we can’t forget sitting on the sofa in my festive pajamas, sipping hot chocolate in my Christmas mug, binge watching my favorite Hallmark Channel holiday movies. Is anybody else with me on being in the Christmas spirit?? Continue reading “Avoiding The Holiday Tug of War”

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A Grateful Heart: 8 Ways to Shower Your Spouse With Gratitude

When was the last time you thanked your spouse or showed them that you appreciate all they’ve done for you or your family?  If you’re like me, at times I take my spouse and the things he does for granted.  Last year, Carlton went on a trip for a week and while he was gone I started realizing all the things that he does.  One thing in particular hit me as I was running late for work and trying to get both my kids to school and suddenly it dawned on me that I hadn’t taken out the trashcans, so I had to run back in the garage and pull the trashcans to the curb.  Now let me say, in that moment I wasn’t appreciating him for all he does, in my mind I was thinking he gets to be on a cruise witnessing the union of our good friends and I’m at home taking out the trash. Continue reading “A Grateful Heart: 8 Ways to Shower Your Spouse With Gratitude”

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A Simple Thank You

I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers.
Ephesians 1:16

It’s that time of year when we pause & reflect to give thanks for our many blessings. I would like to take a moment to thank all those that have supported me on this journey!

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Contentment: Pursuing Your Peace

Why is it so hard to just be content?  I found myself asking that exact question after my pastor preached a sermon a few weeks ago called “The Contentment Commandments.”  After I left church, I started reflecting on how the sermon related to me and if a lack of contentment ever affected my life, my marriage, or my family.  The sermon made me dig deep and think back to Christmas 2000, when my mom came into my room to find me crying on the bed, she lovingly asked me what was wrong, but I couldn’t bear to tell her what was going on, it would break her heart.  She asked over and over what was wrong but I repeatedly said I was fine.  I wiped my eyes and came out to be with the rest of the family.  That was the first time I began to struggle with being content.  I was 16 and the personal tragedy that I was struggling with was….I was unhappy with the presents I got for Christmas.  Continue reading “Contentment: Pursuing Your Peace”

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